Archive | May, 2012

Summer Lovin’

28 May

Happy Memorial Day!  It’s been a while since I’ve posted – mostly because I’ve been very busy with work these past couple of months, but also because I haven’t had any new bad dates to report.  This weekend marks the unofficial start to summer, and hopefully also the unofficial start to a new dating season.  If you look at the J.Crew website or even the Land’s End catalog on your parents’ kitchen table, you’ll be bombarded by images of happy couples, young families, or groups of young people looking carefree and in love.  But if you’re entering the summer season as a single girl, there are some roadblocks along the way.  Here, a list of my gripes about why summer lovin’ is not always about havin’ a blast (sorry, Danny Zuko).

1)  Summer attire.  Summer is the season for weekends at the beach and days spent on boats.  This means baring most of your body in swimsuits.  We’re supposed to accept that it’s just the norm in the summer – if we’re fun, active girls, these are things we do!  Boys like activities – and we like boys who like activities!  But think about it:  Would you ever do this in the winter?   Imagine yourself parading around the streets and walking into bars in lingerie in broad daylight.  Not normal.

2)  Sweat.  New Yorkers relish those first spring days – the thermometer climbs above 60 degrees, the girls pull out their sundresses, and the guys break out the flip flops.  But those temperate days are short-lived and suddenly the pea soup-like humidity descends upon us.  Unless you have jumped on the Botox injection bandwagon, sweating ensues.  I’ve heard about girls out there who “glisten” or “glow” in a beautiful way when they sweat.  I’m not sure this is really the norm.  In fact, I think it’s a myth portrayed by ads in which the girls have been sprayed with a light-mist water bottle, infused with Nars Orgasm blush.  Most of us sweat – it starts on the upper lip and takes over from there.  God forbid you’re wearing a gray cotton shirt or dress.

3) Hair.  See #2 above for the way heat and humidity takes over.  If you’re lucky, you’ve been blessed with some sort of waves or curls.  And even if your hair is pin straight, it likely takes on some sort of funky kink during the summer months.  The humidity wreaks havoc on hair, creating what I like to call a frizz halo.

4) Waxing.  Enough said.

5)  Sunburn.  Ahhh, those women of Latin and Italian descent really have it made when it comes to skin tone.  If you saw me in early summer (i.e., today), you’d have no idea I have Italian ancestors.  My mom could be mistaken for someone from a  country close to the equator.  My brother has a deep tan as of tonight, this third day of “summer.”  Although I can develop a decent tan after several weeks of sun exposure, I am prone to burning in the early days of May and June.  Some people may get a really red chest or fiery shoulders.  Not me.  I know I’m not alone in this one – I’ve seen other women out there with the same affliction.  The blotchy burn.  Random spots on the chest.  A streak here or there on the back.  There is no hiding it during these early days.

6)  The makeup conundrum.  We’ve all been there.  The fun/dreaded social group outing to the beach.  Sure, when you lounge around the pool by yourself or head down to the beach with your two married girlfriends and their kids, you don’t bat a fake eyelash when thinking about makeup.  You don’t wear any.  But what happens when beach time collides with social time?  A group is heading to the beach for a day of fun in the sun, including catching rays and catching waves.  Friends are bringing friends…and maybe there will be single guys there.  You never know.  If you’re the aforementioned Italian woman with bronze, sweat-free (just dewy) skin, you’re A-okay.  But if you’re like the rest of us, you have to weigh your options.  Although sun sometimes helps burn away those pesky breakouts, sweat and sunscreen also lead to serious pore-clogging.  Do you wear some makeup and risk the foundation-colored sweat beads dripping down your face as you chat up the prospective guy?  Or do you just let the blotchy burn and breakouts shine through?

7)  Dehydration.  You’ve been in the sun all day.  You had a few beers on the beach or in the park.  You probably haven’t had enough water – and even if you were chugging water all day, it still isn’t enough.  You leave your friends to go home and get ready for a first date.  You get to dinner and decide to split an icy pitcher of refreshing sangria.  You drink two glasses over getting-to-know-you conversation, and then you excuse yourself to go to the restroom.  You stand up, and it hits you – you’re wasted.  You realize you have a splitting headache and you feel nauseous. Dehydration – it will get you every time.

So, consider yourself warned – there is a lot to consider when it comes to summer dating.  That being said – in my opinion, summer is the best time of the year.  It’s a time to kick back, relax, and really enjoy your weekends.  After spending this past weekend at the beach with family, I am reminded of what summer is really about (at least for me) – being transported back to the carefree months of each year of my childhood when I ran around barefoot, hopped in and out of the pool all day, and rode bikes around the neighborhood with friends.  Despite the difficulties of being a single adult female in the summertime, I have to admit that the magic in the summer air helps me feel like the best version of myself.  Whatever your dating life brings this summer, I hope your version of summer magic outweighs the perils!